“Failure is just an event. It is not a characteristic. People can’t be failures. You are not a failure and can never be one.”
This mantra is one of many second-year student Sona Durairaj repeats at the end of the yoga classes she teaches with University of Virginia Recreation. To her, these words are more than a closing statement; they are a reminder that external forces do not determine a person’s self-worth.
“I end some of my classes with this mantra because I think it’s important to remind my students that their worth isn’t tied to their accomplishments or mistakes,” she said. “I heard it from a mentor, and it’s stuck with me ever since.”
Durairaj, a kinesiology major, knows the feeling of failure firsthand. Growing up as a competitive ice skater in Atlanta, her dreams came to a sudden halt in high school when a foot injury ended her skating career.
“I used to feel like a failure when I had to give up ice skating,” she reflects. “Yoga gave me a way to stay active and calm my mind, and it showed me that there’s always another path forward.”
Even as a student, Durairaj knows how easy it is to feel like a failure. “I think it’s really easy to blur the lines between schoolwork and you as a person,” Durairaj said. That’s why she embraces this mantra, reminding her fellow students that failure is an event, not a reflection of their worth.
Durairaj started practicing yoga at age 16 as an outlet to calm her mind and fill the time she was no longer spending skating.
“Yoga wasn’t something that came to me naturally at first,” she said. “I had to work at it, but once I started to feel more connected to my breath and movement, I was hooked.”