In the Emmy-winning HBO Max medical drama “The Pitt,” medical resident Mel King attempts to comfort a distraught woman who’s overwhelmed caring for her disabled mother.
“You know, caretaker’s fatigue is a real thing,” King says. “You have to take care of yourself, otherwise you’re going to end up in here, too.”
Though the term caretaker’s fatigue – or caregiver stress – has only recently gained recognition as a concept, the experience itself is all too familiar for many. To learn what it is, who is affected and how to manage it, UVA Today talked with University of Virginia School of Nursing professor Paula Sherwood
In Sherwood’s research, she looks for markers of stress in caregivers – like the level of cortisol stored in people’s hair – and develops interventions to provide support and relief.
Q. What is caregiver stress?

Nursing professor Paula Sherwood researches markers of stress in caregivers, like the level of cortisol in someone’s hair. (Contributed photo)
A. Caregiver stress is the strain that family members feel when their loved one is diagnosed with a medical condition, and it could be anything from Alzheimer’s disease to cancer to cardiovascular disease to having a child with neurodevelopmental disorders.
The term encompasses the shock of the initial diagnosis as well as the way that diagnosis changes families’ lives. Roles and tasks change within the family, finances change and social networking changes. Everything changes at that point to some degree. For some folks, it’s not a big or long-lasting change and they have the resources to cope with it. For other folks, there’s a huge barrage of stressors that they now face.
Q. How is it different from other kinds of stress?
A. If you’re walking down the street and you run into a bear, your mind is suddenly filled with fear. You’ve got shock, worry, anger, depression. It starts a physiological stress cascade in your body, which is the “fight, flight or freeze” response. The hormones in your body start pumping out molecules to help you fight whatever stressor that is. If you run into a bear, your cortisol will increase to give you extra energy to fight the bear. Your heart rate goes up, your blood pressure goes up. All of those things help prime your body to handle that bear. In normal cases, with an acute stressor, the bear will run away or die and things in the body return to normal.
When you’re a family caregiver, the initial diagnosis is only the first step of that stress cascade. Those threats keep coming. You have to worry about treatments, mortality, how your loved one is going to change. For caregivers, that bear never goes away, so your body continues to be in some degree of fight, flight, or freeze, and over time, it wears you out physically and emotionally.